People Are Not One Person: Multi-Dimensionality & Who We Are

Some very deep lessons learned so far: By Kevin Kane

If I have learned anything from my life it is that we must forgive people, understand that people are not one-dimensional, and to learn to value the dimension that either brings out the best in them, or the best for us. The more of a person's dimension we focus on that we like or need, the more they become that dimension of who they are around us.

No one is without evil; an evil person can do really good things for one person and really evil for or to another. The question we need to answer is,

"What dimension of this person is their reality around me?"

Don't look at people as if they are one person who we judge in whole; look at them for who they are to us. It is without reality to see people as those static photos of them in our wallets or in our memories.

You can disagree with this, but you will find yourself being hypocritical in a matter of time and unable to change others for the better by pinning them down rather than helping them grow. Individuals are in fact many ranging dimensions in one. People are changing-flowing rivers, being different people in different settings, and at different times.

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Someone pointed out that this the opposite of what Mark Zuckerberg suggests, or once suggested... that we should be the same person all the time, online, offline, etc.

I attribute this view to childish idealism coupled with a fear of the complexity of life manifested in wanting to force them into a box they cannot fit: in order to reduce that complexity we so deeply fear because it is in fact painful at times.